I did not write the below blog but I read it over the weekend and it resonated with me. We all struggle to be seen and heard and with Autistic children their voice can many times be hidden or just not one we understand. How frustrating that must be!! As moms and dads and caregivers we are naturally fixers. We want to "fix" things .. boo boos, hurt feelings, cut and scraped knees, and even sometimes their Autism. Then we realize, although the struggle is real, that person, that little perfect imperfection in front of us is just like the rest of us. We are all different and unique and have our quirks and likes and dislikes and way about doing things......and we wouldn't want it any other way..
Life is messy. Its hard. It is lots of trial and error. Its lessons learned and growth through failure. Its perseverance. Its dealing with what you've got with grace and with the tools you have. Its moving forward.... somedays running and somedays barely crawling.
Life is precious and we are all in this together.
I see you taking your kid to therapy while your friends take their kids to football or ballet.
I see you sneak out of the conversation when all your friends boast about achievements and exam notes,
I see you juggle events and meetings.
I see you sitting on the computer for hours investigating what your child needs.
I see you make a bad face when people complain about what looks like nonsense.
I see you disappear little by little but you keep going beyond for your family.
I see you pull strength from weakness with a force you didn't even dream you had.
I see you showing respect for teachers, therapists, and medical professionals who help your child and you.
Watching you wake up early in the morning to do it all again after another chaotic night.,
I see you when you're on the edge of the precipice struggling to live.
I know you feel invisible, like no one notices. But I want you to know that I see you.
I see you pish forward always. I see you choose to do everything you can to give your child the best care at home, school, therapy, and the doctors. What you do matters. Its worth the struggle.
On those days when you wonder if you can make it one more minute, I want you to know I see you.
I want you to know that you are beautiful. I want you to know its worth it .I want you to know that you are not alone. I want you to now that love is the most important thing, and that you are best at it.
And in those days when you see an improvement, those moments when hard work has its reward, and you can taste success, Ill see you then too! I am proud of you.
Whatever day today.....
you're doing it right.
And I see you.
Written by Alethea Msar